Avoiding conflict at work? This biblical truth will lead you to peace…

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. (Romans 12:18)

I’m ashamed to admit that I’ve been waiting eight years for someone to make the first move in pursuing peace with me. 

From my perspective, this person is the “more guilty” party in our conflict (whatever that means). But today’s passage has convicted me to take the first step toward peace. This verse is also the source of the second of seven biblical principles I’m sharing for resolving conflict at work….

Principle #2: Make the First Move to resolve any conflict.

This principle is directly connected to the first one we explored last week to “Praise the Prince of Peace for the grace and mercy he has shown you.” If Jesus waited for the guilty party to make the first move in resolving conflict, you and I would be eternally dead in our sin. 

But Christ did move first. He pursued peace with us while we rejected him. And so, to follow Jesus fully includes following his example to blaze trails of peace with others. Which is why Paul said, “as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (see Romans 12:18). Hebrews 12:14 says the same thing: “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy.” The call here is proactive rather than reactive in the image of Christ.

What conflict is nagging at your attention most this Monday morning? Is it a team member you’re frustrated with for missing a deadline? Is it a boss whose stubborn opinion on a policy infuriates you? Is it a client who you’ve heard has been speaking poorly about you behind your back? Whatever it is, resolve to make the first move to pursue peace. To make this more practical, allow me to suggest you take a couple of minutes to complete these four actions.

First, create a note in a place that will be easily accessible throughout this series. It could be a note on your phone, desktop, journal—wherever.

Second, write down the name of the person you’ve been thinking of during this devotional. The one you have the most unresolved conflict with. Can’t think of anyone? Think about who you don’t want to see on Zoom, in the breakroom, or at the grocery store today. That’s the name!

Third, jot down Romans 12:18 underneath their name to remind yourself of the biblical call for you to make the first move in pursuing peace.

Fourth, pray for the name on your list and ask the Lord for wisdom as you pursue peace with them. Next week, we’ll get even more practical about what God’s Word says about how to do exactly that!